It is beyond frustrating when your husband seems oblivious to your ever-increasing to-do list and is only interested in staring at his phone, staying late at work, or taking a nap while the house is flying. He drags his feet to do the simplest things you ask him to do.  

What can you do about it?

Are you frustrated that your husband is not helping out?  Are you overwhelmed and exhausted and wish he would step up to the plate?

You are definitely not alone. But there is hope, and specific things you can do that can quickly turn your husband into your superhero and make your life feel easier, ...

Are you utterly exhausted? Is your day a juggling act, filled with the demands of work, caring for the kids, preparing meals, cleaning up the house, running errands, and tackling that ever-growing pile of laundry? Each day seems to leave you drained, both physically and emotionally.

My husband neve...

Do you feel stuck in a lonely and loveless marriage? Are you desperate to change things but just don’t know how?

If these feelings resonate with you, you’re not alone. That’s exactly how I felt from the moment my husband and I got married 30 years ago. That is, until I finally repaired my broken ma...

From little girls dressing up as kallahs to jittery first dates, we all dream about the picture-perfect home and marriage. When that dream doesn’t quite turn into reality, it’s crushing. 

Your marriage leaves you feeling disillusioned, resentful, and disappointed. You start asking yourself, “Is THI...

Is self-care selfish? The short answer is — absolutely not. In fact, it’s the glue that keeps your marriage together. Sounds dramatic? Let me explain. 

Life Without Self-Care

Before I transformed my marriage with a Certified Laura Doyle Relationship coach (see my story here), I believed self-care ...

When I got married, I messed up many things. Not to downplay my numerous cooking and laundry mishaps (pink shirts, anyone?), but my attempts at “helping” my husband were far more serious. 

All my life, I’d been taught about being an ezer kenegdo; helping your husband reach his full potential, guidi...

It’s not just you. Many other women struggle in their marriages, too — like Chaya. 

Chaya was a typical woman in a typical marriage with typical issues. She was also completely at a loss. She had no idea where her husband’s anger, distance, and coldness were coming from. She had no clue where it ha...

We finally arrived for our long-awaited vacation. Despite the comfortable surroundings, it was hard to breathe. The silence in the room created a crushing anxiety. 

I had worn myself out with all the arrangements for the trip. I looked forward to feeling free and relaxed.  Instead, deep pain from m...

I dated a few guys until I found the perfect one! When my husband and I met, I thought we were twins! He was funny, outgoing, on the ball and such a great guy. He was so cool and exciting! 

After we got married, it didn't take long to realize how different we were. I'm emotional, he's logical. I lo...

When I was first introduced to Laura Doyle's skills, I couldn’t think of a single thing I was grateful for about my husband. I was so stuck in my negative perception of him that I found a dark, ulterior motive for everything he did!

If he took care of the grocery shopping, I huffed that he was tryi...

I was overwhelmed, stressed, and unhappy, and blamed my husband. If I was frustrated or disappointed, it was his fault. I expected him to fulfill all my needs and fix any problems I had. 

I sat alone in my room, feeling depressed and anxious without understanding why. I resented my husband for not ...

Where did the dreams of my fairy-tale marriage go? I guess that’s what they were—just dreams. 

I was completely drained, physically and mentally.  Balancing two jobs, caring for the household, and looking after our son became overwhelming. Despite all my hard work, I didn't feel valued or recognize...

Picture the absolute definition of a martyr, and I can assure you that was me. Before I learned about receiving graciously, I was the worst receiver you could imagine. 

I would brush off compliments, refuse assistance, and protest gifts. I don’t know what it was that made me cringe so badly, but I ...

When I first learned about self-care, I was all in. I could totally get my nails done once a week, go for coffee with friends, and take an exercise class. No problem! ‘Cuz that’s what self-care is, right? 

Like the good girl I am, I plunged into self-care headfirst. I filled my calendar with variou...

Did you once fantasize about being the “perfect” wife? You know, the one who greets her husband with a smile, flawless makeup, delicious dinner, and a gleaming home?

Yeah, me too. And then… life happened!  And reality did NOT look like my dreamy expectations. 

In actuality, I bombarded my husband ...

After my first coaching session, I was furious. The thought of surrendering made me nauseous. If the term “surrendered” makes you cringe, you’re not alone. For many of us, it stirs up feelings of defiance, obstinance, and fear. 

You may be worried about becoming a pushover.  You may be afraid of lo...

My husband doing things for me just to make me happy? Yeah, right. Very funny. Our marriage was just about as bad as it could get. 

Well, fast-forward two years of applying a few simple skills, and these little incidents happen so often that they don’t even shock me anymore! In fact, I’ve even come...

My marriage was distant and lonely.  We disagreed on everything, so we just avoided speaking to each other. I complained a lot and dealt with ongoing verbal abuse. 

My husband was the problem, and he needed to change. I worried that I had married the wrong person. I felt undesired and uncherished a...

Married life, while filled with blessings, has also been a source of profound pain and frustration for me. The day-to-day demands of raising two young children left me exhausted and overwhelmed. I often found myself drowning in the endless cycle of diaper changes, tantrums, and sleepless nights. The...

I used to have scathing thoughts about how clueless my husband was.  I just stewed in resentment and criticism without even really thinking about or knowing what I wanted or bothering to tell him.  He should just know and understand me!  Unfortunately, my criticism never motivated him to improve. 

It’s so frustrating when you’re saying something simple, and your husband suddenly shuts down and acts cold or angry. It feels like you can’t even have a mature conversation without things getting messy. You just want to tell him to chill out so you can actually talk things over. 

I used to be conf...

What if you could have a marriage that is easy, peaceful, and happy instead of painful, lonely, and hostile? 

To my client, Tehila, who was frequently verbally abused, it sounded pretty far-fetched -  especially because her husband saw no reason to change.

He flew into unexpected rages, spewing ha...

When I was in the depths of despair in my marriage, I was certain of only one thing - HE needed to change. Me, not so much.  I was a good wife and a good person.  I was only miserable because of him. 

But he wasn’t interested in changing. And I became more and more resentful. 

So what is there to ...