The Secret of Surrender

After my first coaching session, I was furious. The thought of surrendering made me nauseous. If the term “surrendered” makes you cringe, you’re not alone. For many of us, it stirs up feelings of defiance, obstinance, and fear. 

You may be worried about becoming a pushover.  You may be afraid of losing control. You may wonder why you have to be the one to give in. 

All of your feelings, fears, and concerns are valid. The good news is that becoming a surrendered wife doesn’t mean losing your sense of self at ALL. 

The Definition of Surrender

Surrendering is not about becoming a doormat or returning to the 1950’s. It’s not about becoming a second-class citizen. It’s about reviving the beginning of your marriage — when you respected your husband, and he adored you. It means investing in your marriage using timeless concepts that have helped transform thousands of marriages. 

You don’t need to sacrifice your own personal needs and wants. All you have to do is open your eyes and change your mindset. Rather than abandoning your desires, surrendering helps you achieve them! By surrendering, you will actually become more empowered than ever before. 

Imagine you go to the beach, and the ocean waves crash around you. You decide to command the waves to stop, but it will never work because you have no control over the ocean. 

Trying to stop the waves will only make you stressed and frustrated. Instead of trying to control the ocean, you can appreciate its beauty. You can take pleasure from watching the waves crash on the shore. Instead of frustration, you feel peace. 

The Surrender Effect

Part of surrendering is realizing that the only person you can change is yourself. Once you realize this, why would you bother subjecting yourself to unnecessary angst and stress by trying to change your husband? (An endeavor that will NEVER work). By letting go, you’re giving yourself the greatest gift of all. 

What is this gift, you ask? When you change yourself, you’re ultimately changing how your husband responds to you. Through the personal work and growth you do, your husband will actually improve without even realizing it. 

The Journey of Empowerment

If this makes sense in your head, but your heart refuses to cooperate, I totally get you. I was the same way. 

Learning to surrender is not easy.  It takes superhuman strength and LOADS of courage, humility, and vulnerability. But don’t give up — the marriage you’re hoping for is within reach, and your future truly can be wonderful. I’ve watched so many women do it, and I know you can too. 

In addition to a change of attitude (easier said than done, I know), if you want to surrender, you’ll also need heaps of practice, reinforcement, and ongoing support. 

Working with a coach is the best way to do this. She’ll hold your hand and guide you every step of the way.

Reach out for a free consultation and become an empowered wife!