Where did the dreams of my fairy-tale marriage go? I guess that’s what they were—just dreams. 

I was completely drained, physically and mentally.  Balancing two jobs, caring for the household, and looking after our son became overwhelming. Despite all my hard work, I didn't feel valued or recognize...

Picture the absolute definition of a martyr, and I can assure you that was me. Before I learned about receiving graciously, I was the worst receiver you could imagine. 

I would brush off compliments, refuse assistance, and protest gifts. I don’t know what it was that made me cringe so badly, but I ...

When I first learned about self-care, I was all in. I could totally get my nails done once a week, go for coffee with friends, and take an exercise class. No problem! ‘Cuz that’s what self-care is, right? 

Like the good girl I am, I plunged into self-care headfirst. I filled my calendar with variou...

Did you once fantasize about being the “perfect” wife? You know, the one who greets her husband with a smile, flawless makeup, delicious dinner, and a gleaming home?

Yeah, me too. And then… life happened!  And reality did NOT look like my dreamy expectations. 

In actuality, I bombarded my husband ...

After my first coaching session, I was furious. The thought of surrendering made me nauseous. If the term “surrendered” makes you cringe, you’re not alone. For many of us, it stirs up feelings of defiance, obstinance, and fear. 

You may be worried about becoming a pushover.  You may be afraid of lo...

My husband doing things for me just to make me happy? Yeah, right. Very funny. Our marriage was just about as bad as it could get. 

Well, fast-forward two years of applying a few simple skills, and these little incidents happen so often that they don’t even shock me anymore! In fact, I’ve even come...

My marriage was distant and lonely.  We disagreed on everything, so we just avoided speaking to each other. I complained a lot and dealt with ongoing verbal abuse. 

My husband was the problem, and he needed to change. I worried that I had married the wrong person. I felt undesired and uncherished a...

Married life, while filled with blessings, has also been a source of profound pain and frustration for me. The day-to-day demands of raising two young children left me exhausted and overwhelmed. I often found myself drowning in the endless cycle of diaper changes, tantrums, and sleepless nights. The...

I used to have scathing thoughts about how clueless my husband was.  I just stewed in resentment and criticism without even really thinking about or knowing what I wanted or bothering to tell him.  He should just know and understand me!  Unfortunately, my criticism never motivated him to improve. 

It’s so frustrating when you’re saying something simple, and your husband suddenly shuts down and acts cold or angry. It feels like you can’t even have a mature conversation without things getting messy. You just want to tell him to chill out so you can actually talk things over. 

I used to be conf...

What if you could have a marriage that is easy, peaceful, and happy instead of painful, lonely, and hostile? 

To my client, Tehila, who was frequently verbally abused, it sounded pretty far-fetched -  especially because her husband saw no reason to change.

He flew into unexpected rages, spewing ha...

When I was in the depths of despair in my marriage, I was certain of only one thing - HE needed to change. Me, not so much.  I was a good wife and a good person.  I was only miserable because of him. 

But he wasn’t interested in changing. And I became more and more resentful. 

So what is there to ...

Why do I have to spell things out - shouldn’t my husband just open his eyes and see what I need?  I’m not expecting him to be a mind reader or anything. OK, maybe I am.  But shouldn't he be that tuned in to me?

It’s so unromantic to tell him what I want - he should just know! If I have to ask, I ma...

Have you ever heard that marriage is all about communication?  I used to let my husband know just how frustrated I felt when I had to ask him a few times before he finally took out the garbage or how abandoned I felt when he paid more attention to his phone than to me.

I also had to communicate exa...

Shana Rishona: I sat in a dream-like haze, my cholent untouched, as my very own talmid chacham waxed brilliantly on this week’s parsha.  How had I merited to marry such a genius?

Fast forward twenty years…and here it comes again: time to clear the fish plates and serve the cholent. Look, I knew it ...